| "Faux" Feelings | Rejected | Abandoned, belittled, neglected, ignored, invisible, isolated, invalidated, passed over, let down, left out, unwanted, undesired, unwelcomed, discriminated against, unappreciated, unheard, unseen, taken for granted, unsupported, forgotten, disregarded, shunned, unloved |
| Controlled | Attacked, bullied, forced, coerced, pressured, cornered, manipulated, intimidated, threatened, trapped, suffocated, thwarted, boxed-in, obligated, shamed | |
| Betrayed | Cheated, misunderstood, patronized, violated, dishonored, mistrusted, ripped off, screwed, wronged | |
| Abused | Attacked, accused, judged, criticized, blamed, harassed, hassled, insulted, overworked, put down, provoked, punished, tortured, infringed upon, dumped on, condemned, taken advantage of, damned, used, victimized | |
| Judgments | Stupid | Dumb, inexperienced, untrained, immature, unpopular, disliked, |
| Like a/an | Doormat, outcast, prince, queen, you don't care, you should, | |
| Good | Great, right, excellent, grand, fortunate, privileged, favored, lucky, popular, smart, free, victorious, wealthy, rich, successful, well-off, fortunate, terrific, blessed, spoiled, pampered, taken care of, silly, | |
| Bad | Wrong, unlucky, unpopular, poor, doomed, terrible, awful, pitiful, fat, ugly, unattractive, dirty, shabby, |
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Table 1: Feelings when needs are met
Table 2: Feelings when needs are not met
Table 4: Basic Needs
Evaluations Masquerading as Feelings © Ike Lasater, Words That Work
Developing a Vocabulary of Feelings
Developing a Vocabulary of Needs
Basic Model for Nonviolent Communication (NVC)