When I see (hear) _______________,
Are you feeling ___________
because you are needing (wanting) ________________.
Is there anything you would like to request of me? _________________.
The four blanks are filled in with observations, feelings, needs and requests, defined as follows:
The concrete actions I am observing (seeing, hearing, remembering, imagining) that are contributing (or not contributing) to my well-being: "When I see ( hear, remember, imagine)..."
How are you feeling in relation to these actions "Are you feeling..."
Your needs (wants, hopes, desires, wishes, expectations, thoughts or values) causing my feelings: "because you are needing (wanting, hoping, desiring, wishing, expecting, thinking, valuing)..."
Offering without any expectations of return, that which would contribute immediately to another's well-being:
"and is there anything you would like to request of me ..."
Examples:
Extending the NVC Model:
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